mixed couple tells of 73 years of love and prejudice

Together for more than 7 decades, an interracial couple opens up about the negative reactions from each of their communities, their loved ones and pastors regarding their relationship. In love with each other, they decided to overcome prejudice and prove that love triumphs over all.

British-born Trudy Menard and British-Guyana-born Barclay Patoir, now called Guyana, had a long relationship. Note that in the beginning, between them, love at first sight was not there. In fact, Trudy was initially skeptical of being in the same room as Barclay, a former engineer.

They ended up becoming friends, and their relationship blossomed into a romance that spans more than seven decades.

Pictures of Trudy and Barclay Patoir | Source: facebook.com/SSAFAOfficial || youtube.com/BBCNews

In 2017, the two lovers who formed an unlikely couple (a white woman and a black man) revealed how their strong love erased their differences and fought against the prejudices they suffered.


Trudy would never have met Barclay if she had kept her job at Bryant and May’s match factory. After the building was destroyed in a bomb attack, she sought new work at Rootes Aircraft Factory in Speke.

Elsewhere, Barclay emigrated to Britain as a volunteer for the mother country of British Guiana, due to a lack of engineering skills due to World War II.

Photo of Trudy and Barclay Patoir during an interview Source: YouTube / BBC

Hundreds of civilians moved to Liverpool in the UK to increase production during the war. While at the factory working on Halifax bombers, Barclay was in a relationship with Trudy.

The young British woman hated working with a colored man she had never seen before; it scared him too. Trudy refused to work as an assistant, but was threatened that her job was at stake.

They ended up becoming colleagues, but kept a noticeable distance. They did not talk until Barclay behaved like a gentleman. He started by taking tea and sandwiches with him. In no time, they became friends with each other and shared ideas about history and Liverpool.

Photo of Barclay Patoir during an interview | Source: YouTube / BBC


People noticed their kindness and often talked about how they spent time chatting. One day fate did its work. Work progressed slowly and the workers had the right to take time off.

They set out on a first date in Southport after boarding a train. Menard then visited Barclay at his inn. This release received mixed reactions. According to Trudy:

“We were getting glare at the time. I could see people talking about us on the train, but we were not paying attention, well, honey?”

Photo of Trudy and Barclay Patoir during an interview Source: YouTube / BBC

She continues: “When we arrived, we got something to eat, and on the way back we went home to him, at the hostel to get a cup of tea. And all the guys were so happy to meet me.”


Although Liverpool was one of the first places to allow blacks to settle in the country, racism was widespread and the couple knew it.

Yet they did not let it get in the way of their love for each other. Instead, they found ways to deal with it. For a time, Trudy refused to tell her mother about their romance.

Picture of Trudy and Barclay Patoir | Source: YouTube / BBC

Eventually, when Trudy’s mother finds out, the worker is fired. However, that was not enough to break their romance. Trudy could not hide his love for Barclay after a Richard Tauber concert where he sang “My Heart and I”.

It became their favorite song, and in 1944, the natives of Britain decided to get married. The couple arranged a Catholic wedding, but the pastor refused to bless them. He said :

“There are so many colored men who come here and go home and leave the women with the kids. So I do not want to marry you off.”

Photo of Trudy and Barclay Patoir during an interview Source: YouTube / BBC

After the pastor refused, they went to the Liverpool Register Office, where they got married. They later moved to Manchester and extended their family with two adorable daughters.


Eventually, Trudy’s mother accepted her choice, and the couple had another marriage blessed by another Catholic priest.

It was not an easy task, but the couple got through it by choosing to understand and support each other.

Asked about the secret behind their marriage, they revealed that they hardly quarrel and never get angry.

While Trudy jokingly added that she could not determine her husband’s unique quality, Barclay admitted that she was a good wife.

Read also: Interracial couples break up in college after being tried, 44 years later they are reunited – today’s story

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