Tal Madesta reconsiders lust beyond all sexuality in her book Desiring at All Costs

You say the sexual revolution has not happened. Why ?
The word revolution is not trivial. It involves a real change in people’s living conditions. As for the question of the sexual revolution, what bothers me is this idea of ​​unbridled pleasure, seen in a quantitative and neoliberal way, as if it had become a target of productivity. The issue is depoliticized because we no longer take into account the economic aspect necessary for the emergence of a true sexual revolution.

This issue of the exploitation of women’s domestic work is seldom taken into account, although it seems central to me. We can not think of sexuality without good living conditions and a real “our own room”.

There is actually a huge imbalance in mental strain when it comes to having a satisfying sexuality.
Complete. And I find the new speeches encouraging having an optimized sexuality even more hallucinatory because it is a new source of work for the women while they already have enough elsewhere. The people who take on the burden of the deconstruction of the couple, of sexual exploration or otherwise, are the women. It is the women who listen The balls on the table and who reads Mona Chollet.

Sexual fulfillment represents a great deal of feminism. How can one not fall into the rebuttal of this and avoid any manic judgment?
The subject of sex-positive movements is important, especially for learning about consent or prevention of sexual health … These are essential themes. On the other hand, I believe that it is necessary to question and criticize the influence of capitalism in these movements, which are the basis of the movements of social struggles and of equality. Today, we are increasingly witnessing a capitalization of these issues. We must recognize the historical interest of these movements, while at the same time questioning why we tend towards a re-acquisition of these issues, which is equivalent to feminism wash. Let’s take the example of certain Instagram accounts: When you have a partnership to win. I do not know how many sex toys that encourage consumption followed by a sexually preventive post, you can clearly see that the boundaries have been blurred between social struggle and capitalism.

How can one think about sexuality in a positive way in relation to the violence that surrounds it?
It’s a complicated subject. In the case of a heterosexual couple, for example, thinking differently about sexuality would be something that most women would assume, and it is not easy for everyone. It is complicated to ask the question of how to improve one’s sex life when our lives are still very much marked by patriarchy. But on a personal level, what helped me with sexuality is being with my boyfriend, who is also trans because we have a deep and very fine understanding of what we are going through. It allowed me to connect much more with my body, whereas before (before my transition when I was still dating men) I had the feeling of a permanent interruption that nothing could have solved.

In that sense, it is not insignificant to see more and more people moving towards other potential sexual orientations. We are also seeing the emergence of more and more resources on political lesbianism, which explains why some women find themselves much more, especially in terms of their sexuality when going out with other women. For example, the book of Louise Morel, How to become a lesbian in ten steps, speaks. There’s a lot of literature coming about it, or rather because it’s thoughts that were actually born in the 1970s.

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