This young father seems convinced of that his in-laws show favoritism. When he and his wife asked them to keep their baby, they refused. However, when his sister-in-law did the same, they immediately agreed. On Save yourhe tells how the situation enraged him and how he ended up going after his stepmother.
The in-laws did not want to keep the child
This father’s daughter was born last year. As he told:
“During the pregnancy, we wondered how we would handle childcare and labor after the birth, and what our routine would look like. Childcare here is expensive, so we talked about our financial situation and what solution would work for us. I work full time, my wife three days [par semaine] »
Given that their baby was to be the first grandchild from their respective families, they asked the grandparents if they could look after their daughter one day a week.
“Obviously we did this knowing that WE chose to have this child and WE are going to take care of her. We absolutely did not force them to babysit or claim to have these days [de garde] available. If they wanted to babysit one day a week, fine, if they didn’t want to, fine too,” he pointed out.
His parents immediately acceptedwhile his in-laws refused:
“They immediately said they were too busy with work, taking care of their elderly parents, etc.”
You should know that the couple had three children. They then explained that if they accepted in this case, they would had to accept for their other grandchildren.
“I was angry with my mother-in-law”
The story does not end there. The father of the family told again :
“Now things have changed drastically. My sister in law got pregnant and they asked my mother in law the same question. And she immediately said yes. When I heard that, I got angry with my mother-in-law.
His sister-in-law then felt guilty when she was told that her mother had refused to keep her niece.
“Meanwhile, my wife has also changed jobs, which makes us plan more due to the irregularity of these working days. And in those difficult days, my mother was and is there to help us. Not my mother-in-law. Knowing that she has to keep my sister-in-law’s child, I am very angry. »
Whereas this father’s wife not wanting to talk about it with his mother, the latter insists and admits that he hates that his stepmother chooses one child over another. Since then, when the mother-in-law asks him about his baby, he has becomes angry. Things got worse to the point where he decided to confront her.
“This week we celebrated my mother-in-law’s birthday with the whole family. She told an aunt how much she was looking forward to babysitting my sister-in-law’s child and I lost control. I was furious that she favored one grandchild over another and she almost missed our daughter’s first full year,” he said.
A spoiled birthday
His wife resents him for confronting his children’s grandmother on her birthday. The principal in question then asks if he is wrong on the forum. It seems that opinions are divided. There are those, like him, who feel his mother-in-law is playing favoritism. Then there are also those who point out that the grandmother you have every right to change your mind about looking after her grandchildren.
“I’m a big believer in treating your children equally, so if you do something for one, you have to do it for the other. Besides the way she said she was excited to keep her sister-in-law’s child, I think it’s really uncomfortable, it rubs the knife in the wound,” says one user.
However, others admitted:
“There could be a million reasons why they said no [ce papa] and yes to his sister-in-law. Perhaps the father had more rules and expectations of his stepmother. Maybe the sister-in-law can’t afford childcare. Maybe the mother-in-law wasn’t ready to be a grandmother-babysitter and is now. Perhaps the mother-in-law would not be responsible for a child and her elderly parents during a pandemic. We don’t know when the father exploded at a birthday party instead of asking. »